Every experience is different
Here are a few personal accounts
I came to Chayelle with post-partum blues:
I had been in therapy for a while and it didnāt seem to be helping. I was constantly worried, anxious and uptight. I was functioning normaly on the outside but worried about everything inside. But when the feelings overwhelmed me it would come out in my behaviour towards my children which made me even more insecure and doubtful. I found myself constantly judging myself and not living up to the way I wanted to be living.
Another mother recommended Chayelle and present parenting.
I was blown away by her ability to remain cheerful and upbeat and to gently bring me up with her. She wasnāt sucked into my misery. I had never been treated like this. At first I couldnāt understand how someone can be like that. It was so different to anything I had experienced.
And slowly over time I started to understand how and why.
My first breakthrough:
I started experiencing my lows in a completely different way. It was almost like having an out of body experience. I could see myself getting down, but not get sucked into it. It was life changing. People had being trying to explain this to me for years, but Chayelle was somehow able to SHOW me.
Once I stopped letting these moods take over, life started looking very different. I came out of my moods far quicker and with no effort at all.
I stopped taking out my feelings on my children when I was in a bad mood because I knew what to do instead. I could actually SEE CLEARLY - it just doesnāt matter, and it will pass.
I started having better relationships with my children because I was longer spending all the time I was with them worrying.
The best part:
As huge as all these things were for me, the best part of it is something no one can see, and that is the way I relate to myself.
I used to despise myself and my actions. I couldn't live with who I was. The thoughts in my head were constantly critical. I was a BAD BAD person.
Like everything else, on the surface you couldnāt see that about me, although Iām sure it came out somehow.
But today, I donāt speak to myself like the way I used to. I donāt believe those thoughts anymore. And when they show up, I donāt take them seriously. I generally feel good inside myself and thatās something I never imagined was possible.
Present Parenting didnāt just help me get out of a difficult time. It gave me the ability to face life in a completely new way ā one that is so much happier and easy going and with the knowledge that I can handle anything that life sends my way.
This work has truly changed my Emunah from theoretical to actual and however many words I write it will never do it justice!
I didnāt even realise how burnt out I was:
I wasnāt in a deep depression. I wasnāt crying every day. I wasnāt having panic attacks. I was justā¦ done.
Done with the constant demands.
Done with feeling like everyone needed me all the time.
Done with giving and giving and giving ā and still feeling like it wasnāt enough.
On the outside, I was "coping." I was ticking the boxes. But inside, I felt completely numb. I wasnāt connecting with my kids the way I wanted to. I wasnāt laughing very much. I had no patience. I was snapping at everyone and then feeling awful about it.
I kept thinking: Is this just what motherhood is? Is it meant to be this draining?
Then I started working with Chayelle. And everything started to shift. Life looks different when she talks.
She helped me see that I wasnāt broken:
I was just completely disconnected from myself. I had no idea how to connect with myself and to see what I needed, and especially how to give myself permission to have it.
She taught me how to stop trying to "fix" everything and instead learn how to be with myself in a kind and present way.
I learned how to say no. I learned how to rest. I learned how to reconnect with my body and my emotions.
And sloooowly, I started enjoying my kids again.:
Not just managing them, not just surviving the day, enjoying them. I started to notice how beautiful they are to look at! I started hearing their cute comments and the adorable things they do.
They stopped feeling like such a burden and honestly started feeling like such gifts. I love their company now and feel completely able to supply their needs without the inner screaming that used to happen.
I didnāt realise how much I was getting in my own way:
When I first reached out to Chayelle, I thought I needed help managing the chaos of motherhood. I had four young kids, a growing business, and zero breathing room. I felt constantly torn, like I was failing at both.
Iād sit down to work and immediately feel guilty for not being with my kids. Then Iād be with my kids and feel like I was neglecting everything else. I was trying to do it all, perfectly and I was burning out in the process.
She recommended I join Present Parenting.
Chayelle helped me see how I was creating all that pressure:
Once I could see it, I couldn't unsee it
She showed me how to slow down without losing momentum and without being less productive. How to lead my business from a place of alignment and ease, instead of anxiety and hustle.
I stopped second-guessing every decision,and overcomplicating everything.
I started trusting myself, both as a mother and as a businesswoman.
And as I became more grounded in myself, everything changed.
My team noticed. My clients noticed. My kids definitely noticed.
And my husband was probably the happiest!
I thought I needed better systems, but actually what I discovered was that except for a little tweaking, my systems were actually pretty good. What I really needed was a better relationship with myself.
This gave me back my energy, my creativity ā and most of all, my clarity. :
Iām still human, but now Iām a human who is ok with ups and downs. I can handle what I now see is ānormalā.
Because of that, I run my home and my business from a place of confidence, not chaos.
What Iāve learned is that when your mind is chaotic, thatās how your life feels. But when your mind is peaceful, the world could be going crazy but you know how to stay centred and in control, no matter whatās happening outside of you.
Now that youāve got a sneak peek into present parenting
Do you want to see what's in store for you?
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